Hello Again Everyone,
It’s September again. You know, that time of year we start buckling down, setting goals and putting in work. It’s also the time of year I realize that the start of this year feels quite the distance away, feeling a lot closer to 2012 than I’d care to admit.
There is a question that no one wants to answer right now, but I’m putting it out there:
Where are you today in relation to what you envisioned, hoped and dreamed of yourself being, building, and achieving way back in January??
Think about it for a moment.
No doubt you have some successes that have amounted. No doubt you’ve had some changes that have permanently affected your every day life. And no doubt you’ve given up on yourself a little here and there (hopefully not A LOT).
Now stick with me for a bit, I’m going to teach you something important about life that you may not know, regardless of how much older than me you may be.
In speaking with a client about the goal setting process I thought I’d share something I found incredibly interesting in my lifetime. Of everything I took in high school, I’m left with a couple of skills namely a great typing speed (got as high as 80wpm after three years of Keyboarding courses), a basic understanding of computers and their various PC applications (thanks to three years of Computer Application courses) and some tidbits from 2 years of psychology and business courses. From the psych course I remember the Transtheoretical Model of Behavior Change:
Say a person is really overweight, like 5’6″ tall and 300lbs. Well, us fit people think, “why doesn’t that person just…”
Well, it’s simple, they’re not ready to. They’re in the Pre-contemplation stage, call it denial that change should or needs to happen. Trying to talk to someone in this stage is incredibly frustrating, much like yelling at a brick wall. But trust me, if done in a caring way, it will one day sink in. Then you move to the Contemplation stage where you start thinking about how hard it would be to face things, what it would be like to succeed, fail, what others might think, how much money it might cost you, who would help us or stand in the way, etc. It’s a hard stage to be in.
Then the awesomeness happens: Preparation stage where you start seeking the exact how-to’s to get the goal/job done. VERY, VERY shortly after that information is collected there is a great sense of urgency and excitement that this goal is actually realizable, achievable and that
you now want it more than ever.
This stage MUST be capitalized on NOW or just like many things in life, a small blow of the wind and you lose focus, something comes up that “HAS” to get done now, it can’t wait even for 2 hours (long enough to get some exercise in and make a good meal for yourself). You have 168 hours each week, learn to time manage!
The point is when you realize that you’re in the Preparation stage, heading quickly towards the Action stage – Dive in head first, no holds barred, no fear! DO NOT HESITATE!
From a favorite book of mine (great life/guy wisdom book), the Hagakure: The Way of the Samurai:
“In the words of the ancients, one should make his decisions within the space of seven breaths. Lord Takandobu said, “If discrimination is long, it will spoil.” Lord Naoshige said, “When matters are done leisurely, seven out of ten will turn out badly. A warrior is a person who does things quickly.”
When your mind is going hither and thither, discrimination will never be brought to a conclusion. With an intense, fresh and undelaying spirit, one will make his judgments within the space of seven breaths. It is a matter of be determined and having the spirit to break right through to the other side.”
This passage really stuck with me the past 10 years. Some people ask me how I change my opinion or direction so fast, that’s why. I was inspired by the speed of judgment in this idea of finishing the decision in the space of 7 breaths.
Now what if you’re in the middle or 3/4 into your goals, just like we’re 3/4 into this year?
I personally set goals more from my birthday this year until my birthday next year. January is just another month to me. With all that’s changed in your life, with everything you’ve gained, lost or become, do you still want the same things you did 9 months ago? If your goal back in January was to lose 20 or 50lbs of fat and take hold of your health…where are you into that? Maybe you’re 16 or 45lbs in, well, it’s time to reaffirm that number, maybe bump it up? Do you still want the same things?
Bear down! Put your head in the sand and get to work. Commit yourself to this day to do this, that day to do that. Book yourself an appointment with yourself that CAN’T be broken. Take care of that injury that’s been bugging you the last 6 months already!! (if you need help there let me know, I have great connections) Get back on the horse!
No one achieves greatness alone. No one. There will be periods of success with more introverted focus just as there will be periods of success with more extroverted, tandem or group based focus. That training partner that was really pushing you – call them up! Your boss mentioned a project at work you were really hoping to take ownership of but it hasn’t come up since – book a meeting with them, see how you can help get it going! Your spouse still hasn’t gotten that job at home completed – meet them halfway – go get the tool or resources to make it happen. Reconnect to those you need, want and desire to create ACTION with.
If I can assist you in your fitness, health, sport performance, weight loss or muscle gain goals – then reconnect with me. Everyone needs a coach from time to time. I may be a busy person but I’m always here to help, we’ll make it work somehow.
That’s it, that’s all I’ve got for now. Think about what you wanted in January, what you want still today; get excited by it, do something RIGHT NOW that sets you up for action in the next two days (like booking that appointment for yourself) and call
a friend you want to walk beside on this part of the path your life is headed.
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